The day after Valentine’s Day of 2013, national news reports indicated a spike in new online dating memberships. Once somewhat frowned upon, looking for love online has become more socially acceptable within the last ten years.
Ann Friedman, a politics columnist for New York’s website, reported in her article Cupid’s Cursor, that one-third of America’s 90 million singles have used online dating services. While some find love, get married, living happily ever after, some have met with tragedy.
Robyn Gardner - Still Missing
Tragedies
Robyn Gardner, who I wrote about August 25, 2011 in an article Missing Persons Advocacy Network, remains missing after meeting Gary V. Giordano online. They met each other on an online dating site, and saw each other a couple times a month. Robyn considered Giordano a friend and agreed to take a vacation to Aruba where she vanished. Her family is still desperately searching for answers. After her disappearance, Giordano attempted to sue American Express for a $3.5 million insurance policy he took our on Robyn prior to their trip to Aruba.
Gary Giordano arrest photo. Courtesy of AP.
Robyn Gardner is just one of many people who have fell victim to an online predator. November 30, 2012, Michigan law enforcement announced the body of Leigh Swanson had been found in the woods, approximately 10 miles northwest of Midland. Her cause of death was a fatal gunshot.
Swanson, 45 years old, had met a man on an online dating site according to her mother, Beverly Kane. Kane said her daughter had expressed that she had a bad feeling prior to going on the date but made a call to her mother on November 18, 2012 from the man’s home indicating everything was fine and she would be home soon. She never arrived and no one knew whom she had gone on the date with.
Leigh Swanson
After Swanson was reported missing, authorities traced the call to a house in Edenville Township, and dispatched deputies to the location. When the deputies approached the front door, they heard a gunshot from inside and ordered anyone inside to come out with their hands over their heads. A man exited the home holding a cell phone in his hand. The man had been on the phone with 911 reporting his son had just shot himself. A search ensued, and police found Swanson’s body in a wooded area on a neighboring property.
While the positive stories about online dating far outnumber the bad, the harsh reality is that online dating can also put people at risk. Following are some tips that can help keep you safe. Remember you can never take too much precaution when it comes to your personal safety.
Protect Yourself
1. Always meet in a public place. Never invite the individual to pick you up from your home or accept an invitation to theirs.
2. Use the online dating site email system to communicate. Remember, the more information you give out the easier you are to find. Even providing a private email address gives someone enough information to find out who you are and where you live.
3. If you decide to meet personally, attempt to obtain as much verifiable information about the person prior to the meeting, such as name and phone number.
4. Make sure you let someone close to you know who you are meeting, where you are meeting, and as much information about the person as possible. You can even have your friend call you during the date. This gives your friends and family peace of mind but also sends a clear message to the individual you are with that others know where you are.
5. Do your homework. It is not unreasonable to conduct a background investigation on a potential mate and could lessen the danger to yourself and those you love.
6. No matter how comfortable you feel with the person, never leave your food or drink unattended.
While I am not discouraging anyone from online dating, I do encourage you to take every precaution necessary to protect yourself. We must not permit tragedies or the lives of victims to be in vain.
About the Author: Kym L. Pasqualini is founder of the Nation’s missing Children Organization in 1994 and the National Center for Missing Adults in 2000. She served as CEO until January 2010. Kym is recognized as an expert in the field of missing persons, and has spent 20 years working with families of missing persons and homicide victims, government officials, advocates, and national media. She is also a contributor to Lauth Investigations International and the Missing Persons Advocacy Network.
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Founder of National Center for Missing Adults and Contributor to Lauth Investigations International and our sponsored site Missing Persons Advocacy Network
Kym L. Pasqualini
SUMMARY
Kym L. Pasqualini is founder of the Nation’s Missing Children Organization, Inc., in 1994 and the National Center for Missing Adults (NCMA), in 2000. Pasqualini served as CEO until January 2010.
Kym has spent nearly 20 years working with government entities pioneering national services for missing adults and their families. Working with national media and law enforcement she has advocated for victims of crime.
Kym has been selected and served on several Advisory Boards and Task Forces; the United States Attorney General Missing Person Task Force, the President Bush DNA Advisory Board, the International Homicide Investigator’s Association – Unidentified Dead Task Force, and the Ethics Committee for the Association of Missing & Exploited Children’s Organizations. Responsibilities have included advising on scope of national problem; media relations; development of state and federal legislation; development of model policy for law enforcement agencies; development of DNA collection kits; development of training curriculum and facilitation of first national law enforcement training program funded through the United States Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Assistance, facilitating training and work groups for law enforcement agencies throughout the country.
Kym has received special recognition from the Office of Victims of Crime at the US Department of Justice, members of Congress, and special award for Leadership presented by Arizona Attorney General, Terry Goddard, for her unwavering commitment to improve the lives of victims of crime.
Kym also founded Life Corrections in 2005, and has dedicated much of her time assisting women inmates by sharing her personal story about overcoming adversity. Whether sharing her perspective on life with prisoners or the mainstream public, Kym’s’ poignant life story continues to touch the lives of many.
SPECIALTIES
Victim advocacy, missing adults, program development, media relations, government relations, nonprofit management, law enforcement training development, training and meeting facilitator, and public speaking, and now freelance writing with focus on Criminal Justice, investigations, missing person, and cold cases.
With nearly 20-yrs experience, Kym has worked with television and print media throughout the country to include expert appearances on CNN, MSNBC, FOX National, The John Walsh Show, Lifetime Television, and the Montel Williams Show, and Anderson Cooper Live.
EXPERIENCE
Founder of the Nation’s Missing Children Organization (NMCO) in 1994. In 1995, Kym identified missing persons over the age of eighteen, to include the family members impacted by the disappearance of their loved ones as a segment of the victim population with minimal resources and expanded charter to assist law enforcement and families of missing adults. In 2000, President Clinton appropriated funding to enable Kym to formally establish a Congressional funded national clearinghouse for missing adults. The National Center for Missing Adults was created, through a grant from the United stated Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Assistance.
Having served 20 years as a community leader and advocate for under-served victim populations throughout the country, Kym has had the opportunity to work with individuals from a variety of vocations within the government and private sector. Working with local, state and federal agencies within the criminal justice community has also provided a wide-range of field based experience. Follow @Lauthinv
Life can suddenly change and you may find yourself facing a divorce, child custody dispute, cheating spouse, civil or criminal litigation. When life takes a sudden turn, it helps to kick a plan into action as soon as possible. The need for a private investigator arises, when we face the need to collect information that will be pertinent to the outcome of a case or verify information provided. Information must be collected professionally, efficiently, and within the boundaries of state and federal law and requires hiring a licensed private investigator, also commonly referred to as a private detective, private eye or PI. When hiring a private investigator it pays to know whom you are hiring.
Most every state in the U.S. requires an individual to complete a background check and obtain a license to be a private investigator but, in the few states where licensing is not required by the state, anyone can become a private investigator. Working with an inexperienced investigator can create significant liability to a client. Considering this, it is very important for a person to do their homework when hiring an investigator so you get the quality services they are paying for.
Private investigators offer an array of specialized services from background investigations, surveillance, computer forensics, and process of legal service, missing person and homicide investigations, criminal defense investigations and many more, while others specialize in a specific service. Regardless of the type of investigation, it is vital that an investigator be knowledgeable and compliant with state and federal laws that pertain to privacy, legal statutes in relation to medical and financial information, proper surveillance techniques, court procedure, and even victim’s rights.
A multitude of fee-based and free networks or associations are available on the Internet providing names of private investigators and private investigation agencies from state to state. These networks provide assistance in locating a private investigator specific to the service needed or in close proximity to the client, however these networks are not a regulatory agency, and many have no background information on the private investigator. While network services are beneficial and do simplify the search for a private investigator, sometimes network services can pose a problem when a client assumes they are hiring a reputable private investigator. Many networks do not provide investigative services themselves and simply serve as an advertising service not liable for the actions or quality of services provided by those listed. Many networks are simply a marketing tool that only require the private investigator or firm to pay a monthly fee to be listed, and do not verify the private investigator’s “good-standing” with any state regulatory agency.
Due Diligence when hiring a local private investigator:
Request a copy of licensing information and any associations the private investigator is a member.
Request a specific list of services the investigator or agency provides.
Contact your Better Business Bureau and state regulatory agency and inquire if there are any complaints on file.
Ask if they subcontract work out to independent investigators.
Request professional references from the investigator; references can include former clients, associates, and even law enforcement personnel.
Ask to review investigative contracts and retainer agreements. Remember, a written contract protects both the client and the private investigator and identifies the terms of the agreement while minimizing misunderstandings and liability.
Hiring a local private investigator enables the client to have a “one on one” consultation in order to discuss the case, discuss work to be performed, review documents, and verify references. Another major benefit of hiring a local private investigator is the investigators knowledge of the area and critical to conducting an effective investigation.
Having connections is an absolute benefit to any investigation. Knowing the neighborhood, local companies, business owners, residents, and “those in the know” cannot be overstated. Obtaining information from a “trusted source” and gathering information in a discreet manner is more dependable if the investigator is familiar with the demographic and geographic makeup of the area. In addition, it is an assurance a client will receive more personalized service.
Thomas Lauth is a 20-year veteran investigator and owner of Lauth Investigations International headquartered in Indianapolis, IN with additional offices in Colorado and Arizona. Lauth has and his team of investigators has provided investigative services that include skip traces, background checks, private and corporate investigations, criminal defense investigations for the state of Indianapolis, child abuse, sex trafficking, and even high profile missing person investigations.
According to Lauth, the benefits of hiring a “homegrown” private investigation firm are immeasurable. “Most investigations and preparation for litigation creates an emotional environment for those involved,” says Lauth. “As licensed private investigators, it important to be dedicated and it is our duty to represent our clients with the utmost integrity and moral conduct so as not to add to emotional injury.”
Author – Kym L. Pasqualini
Founder, National Center for Missing Adults
Lauth Investigations International, Inc.
201 N. Illinois St., 16th Fl.-South Tower
Indianapolis, IN 46204
Edward Herdrich can’t bug your ex’s phone. Nor does he carry a gun. He’s never been shot at or had a knife or gun pulled on him.
But he’s helped reunite parents with their runaway children, exposed people lying on workers’ compensation cases and even spent four months on a company bowling team to build trust so he could root out workplace crime.
The 48-year-old Elgin man and private investigator shared anecdotes and dispelled some myths about the work of detectives on Sunday afternoon while promoting his book, “Private Investigation: A Guide for the Beginner,” at Books At Sunset in Elgin.
“It’s not always like Agatha Christie where you have high friends in high places to help you along the way,” said Herdrich.
He described his book as a general reader about how to get started pursuing a career in the field. The book also contains real-life stories about some of the cases during his 19-year career.
He specializes in fraud investigations, criminal defense and locations, such as finding runaways or the birth parents of clients who were adopted.
Herdrich, who has taught continuing education classes on private investigation at Elgin Community College for five years and Harper College in Palatine for three years, said he doesn’t like to do surveillance work because it’s time consuming and he can only focus on one case.
He likes “the puzzle” behind location-type cases.
“Communication skills are so important in this industry because you don’t know who you’re going to have to talk to to get information,” he said. “A good private detective is the first person to arrive, the last person to leave and the person nobody remembers that much about.”
Herdrich said private investigators in Illinois must be licensed by the state, but there is no formal college program to earn a degree to become a detective.
A lot of investigators have military or law enforcement backgrounds, but it’s not essential. Future private eyes must work several years for a licensed investigator and later pass a state test.
“There’s no real education. I’d like to see that changed,” he said.
Herdrich is slated to speak again at 2 p.m. April 25 at Books at Sunset, 1100 South St. For more information, call (847) 888-1868. Source
