After a tragedy occurs, we often hear stories of survival. These stories give us hope, and allow us to emphasize with the victims who were brave enough to share their experiences. In these times of hardship, no one is going to question a victim’s story. Haven’t they been through enough already?
Perhaps not. Sometimes there are lies mixed in among these accounts from survivors, which is why properly vetting a candidate is essential.
When the Truth Comes Out
Consider the case of Somaly Mam, a Cambodian woman who claimed she was a victim of sex trafficking during her childhood. According to Mam’s story, she was sold into slavery around age 10 and was then forced to marry a soldier at age 14. Mam went as far as creating a foundation named after her, which raised money and awareness for victims. The organization and Mam herself gained the attention of big name celebrities such as Oprah WInfrey and Susan Sarandon. Many articles and columns have been written, praising Mam for all she had done. However, when a Newsweek journalist did some digging on Mam’s past, it soon came to light that Mam had fabricated her tale (Mullany, “Activist Resigns Amid Charges of Fabrication”).
And let’s not forget about Tania Head, whose horrific account of the September, 11 attacks placed her as president of the Survivors’ Network. Head told reporters she had been in the south tower, witnessing gruesome deaths and nearly losing her own arm before being rescued by the heroic Welles Crowther. She also claimed to have lost her husband, Dave in the attacks. At the time of her debut, the nation was still healing, and no one wanted to interrogate a woman who had gone through so much. However, many survivors began to notices several holes in her story. Head quickly dismissed them and did her best to cover her tracks. It wasn’t until The New York Times began to do a little background checking on her for a piece that the truth came out. Tania Head wasn’t even in the country at the time of the attacks, and had never been married to Dave. In fact, her real name wasn’t even Tania Head (NPR Staff, “The Amazing, Untrue Story Of A Sept. 11 Survivor”).
A Lesson Learned
Even though these women lied about their past, many still struggle with letting them go. Mam raised over $2 million in donations for victims of sex trafficking in 2012, and many Sept. 11 survivors credit Head with helping them heal. But despite the good they’ve done, the fact that they lied remains. The true victims are overshadowed by people like Mam and Head, and the actions of these two leave others to question the stories of the real survivors. When this happens, the organizations and people they were affiliated with lose their credibility. After all, a simple background check was all it took to discover the truth. These organizations handle millions of dollars and deal with sensitive subjects, yet they couldn’t have bothered to double check a few details?
Situations like these emphasize the importance of properly vetting a candidate before they are able to hold a position of power. This rings true for everyone, not just supposed victims. The practice of vetting a candidate is most often used in politics to ensure that they haven’t embellished too much about their past. Companies who are in the process of hiring executives need to examine the backgrounds of their candidates, which was explained in our article on Executive Background Checks.
When it comes to situations like the ones Mam and Head were involved in, it is always best to err on the side of caution and make sure their stories check out. Doing so can prevent legal troubles, liability issues, and even heartbreak.
All over the country, immigrant workers spend hours harvesting the very fruits and vegetables that we put on our tables every day. However, many of these women face more than sore fingers and a blistering sun on the job. Verbal and sexual assault run rampant in the fields, and unfortunately the majority of these cases go unreported by the victims. When a report does come out, it often gets dismissed due to lack of evidence. Corporations in the agriculture industry that suspect sexual assault can hire a private investigator to conduct an internal investigation of the allegations.
Pressured by Power
In May of 2012, Human Rights Watch (HRW) released a 96-page report detailing the workplace abuse that farmworkers have faced and bringing to light the stories of those victims who had kept silent for so long. According to the report, women farmworkers are most often threatened by men who oversee them, and who are in positions of power. One particular worker was quoted in the report, stating:
“For me, it felt like an eternity. I wanted to scream but I couldn’t. Afterward, he said I should remember that it’s because of him that I have this job, and if I say anything, I’ll lose my job…. I was afraid to call the police, to do anything. I didn’t know what to do. My mind was completely blocked off.”
Nearly all of the workers interviewed by HRW reported being victims of sexual abuse at work or knowing of someone who had. Other victims shared similar stories, with supervisors bribing them with money or threatening to fire them if they spoke of the abuse. Although workplace sexual harassment appears to be commonplace in the fields, it is incredibly hard to pinpoint the amount. Many of these women do not have a choice and worry that they’ll lose the only source of income their family has. For some, sexual harassment has become part of the job.
A Growing Problem
Despite the efforts of organizations like Human Rights Watch and the Center for Investigative Reporting, the sexual harassment female farmworkers face still continues. Those who work in agriculture already face challenges such as low wages and long hours, so victims of abuse fall through the cracks. Thanks to these organizations and the women they spoke to, many more victims are coming forward. Even so, the allegations rarely result in justice, with most cases being dismissed or left up in the air. Farmworkers often do not have the funds to afford an attorney, and many of the cases lack physical evidence needed to convict the accused.
Consider the case of Evans Fruit Co., one of the largest suppliers of apples in the United States. A supervisor was accused of assaulting several women, including a 15 year-old girl. Both the victims and the supervisor had conflicting stories, but the company won the case in the end. In most cases such as this one, the alleged abuser is a repeat offender that won’t stop until he is caught.
Importance of Internal Investigations
Companies have begun to provide training on sexual assault to ensure that their workers understand their rights. However, many corporations hire farm labor contractors that oversee the hiring of workers and the harvesting of crops. The recent Supreme Court case Vance V. Ball State University has made it more difficult for employers to sue the supervisors that are abusing their employees. Many of these businesses are unaware of the abuse, thus tarnishing their image and resulting in a loss of employees.
Conducting an internal investigation of these allegations can help large companies weed out abusive employees and protect the innocent, as well as prove the legitimacy of these claims. Sexual harassment can be a difficult and emotional experience for everyone involved, which is why it is important to hire a professional investigator. Too often, these claims are not investigated deeply enough and as a result, seem to be unfounded. Thomas Lauth, CEO and founder of Lauth Investigations International, Inc., understands the importance of sexual harassment claims and the damage they cause to both the victims and the employers. The experienced private investigators at Lauth Investigations International, Inc. will work closely with your company in a thorough and professional manner.
The day after Valentine’s Day of 2013, national news reports indicated a spike in new online dating memberships. Once somewhat frowned upon, looking for love online has become more socially acceptable within the last ten years.
Ann Friedman, a politics columnist for New York’s website, reported in her article Cupid’s Cursor, that one-third of America’s 90 million singles have used online dating services. While some find love, get married, living happily ever after, some have met with tragedy.
Robyn Gardner - Still Missing
Tragedies
Robyn Gardner, who I wrote about August 25, 2011 in an article Missing Persons Advocacy Network, remains missing after meeting Gary V. Giordano online. They met each other on an online dating site, and saw each other a couple times a month. Robyn considered Giordano a friend and agreed to take a vacation to Aruba where she vanished. Her family is still desperately searching for answers. After her disappearance, Giordano attempted to sue American Express for a $3.5 million insurance policy he took our on Robyn prior to their trip to Aruba.
Gary Giordano arrest photo. Courtesy of AP.
Robyn Gardner is just one of many people who have fell victim to an online predator. November 30, 2012, Michigan law enforcement announced the body of Leigh Swanson had been found in the woods, approximately 10 miles northwest of Midland. Her cause of death was a fatal gunshot.
Swanson, 45 years old, had met a man on an online dating site according to her mother, Beverly Kane. Kane said her daughter had expressed that she had a bad feeling prior to going on the date but made a call to her mother on November 18, 2012 from the man’s home indicating everything was fine and she would be home soon. She never arrived and no one knew whom she had gone on the date with.
Leigh Swanson
After Swanson was reported missing, authorities traced the call to a house in Edenville Township, and dispatched deputies to the location. When the deputies approached the front door, they heard a gunshot from inside and ordered anyone inside to come out with their hands over their heads. A man exited the home holding a cell phone in his hand. The man had been on the phone with 911 reporting his son had just shot himself. A search ensued, and police found Swanson’s body in a wooded area on a neighboring property.
While the positive stories about online dating far outnumber the bad, the harsh reality is that online dating can also put people at risk. Following are some tips that can help keep you safe. Remember you can never take too much precaution when it comes to your personal safety.
Protect Yourself
1. Always meet in a public place. Never invite the individual to pick you up from your home or accept an invitation to theirs.
2. Use the online dating site email system to communicate. Remember, the more information you give out the easier you are to find. Even providing a private email address gives someone enough information to find out who you are and where you live.
3. If you decide to meet personally, attempt to obtain as much verifiable information about the person prior to the meeting, such as name and phone number.
4. Make sure you let someone close to you know who you are meeting, where you are meeting, and as much information about the person as possible. You can even have your friend call you during the date. This gives your friends and family peace of mind but also sends a clear message to the individual you are with that others know where you are.
5. Do your homework. It is not unreasonable to conduct a background investigation on a potential mate and could lessen the danger to yourself and those you love.
6. No matter how comfortable you feel with the person, never leave your food or drink unattended.
While I am not discouraging anyone from online dating, I do encourage you to take every precaution necessary to protect yourself. We must not permit tragedies or the lives of victims to be in vain.
About the Author: Kym L. Pasqualini is founder of the Nation’s missing Children Organization in 1994 and the National Center for Missing Adults in 2000. She served as CEO until January 2010. Kym is recognized as an expert in the field of missing persons, and has spent 20 years working with families of missing persons and homicide victims, government officials, advocates, and national media. She is also a contributor to Lauth Investigations International and the Missing Persons Advocacy Network.
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Kym L. Pasqualini
SUMMARY
Kym L. Pasqualini is founder of the Nation’s Missing Children Organization, Inc., in 1994 and the National Center for Missing Adults (NCMA), in 2000. Pasqualini served as CEO until January 2010.
Kym has spent nearly 20 years working with government entities pioneering national services for missing adults and their families. Working with national media and law enforcement she has advocated for victims of crime.
Kym has been selected and served on several Advisory Boards and Task Forces; the United States Attorney General Missing Person Task Force, the President Bush DNA Advisory Board, the International Homicide Investigator’s Association – Unidentified Dead Task Force, and the Ethics Committee for the Association of Missing & Exploited Children’s Organizations. Responsibilities have included advising on scope of national problem; media relations; development of state and federal legislation; development of model policy for law enforcement agencies; development of DNA collection kits; development of training curriculum and facilitation of first national law enforcement training program funded through the United States Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Assistance, facilitating training and work groups for law enforcement agencies throughout the country.
Kym has received special recognition from the Office of Victims of Crime at the US Department of Justice, members of Congress, and special award for Leadership presented by Arizona Attorney General, Terry Goddard, for her unwavering commitment to improve the lives of victims of crime.
Kym also founded Life Corrections in 2005, and has dedicated much of her time assisting women inmates by sharing her personal story about overcoming adversity. Whether sharing her perspective on life with prisoners or the mainstream public, Kym’s’ poignant life story continues to touch the lives of many.
SPECIALTIES
Victim advocacy, missing adults, program development, media relations, government relations, nonprofit management, law enforcement training development, training and meeting facilitator, and public speaking, and now freelance writing with focus on Criminal Justice, investigations, missing person, and cold cases.
With nearly 20-yrs experience, Kym has worked with television and print media throughout the country to include expert appearances on CNN, MSNBC, FOX National, The John Walsh Show, Lifetime Television, and the Montel Williams Show, and Anderson Cooper Live.
EXPERIENCE
Founder of the Nation’s Missing Children Organization (NMCO) in 1994. In 1995, Kym identified missing persons over the age of eighteen, to include the family members impacted by the disappearance of their loved ones as a segment of the victim population with minimal resources and expanded charter to assist law enforcement and families of missing adults. In 2000, President Clinton appropriated funding to enable Kym to formally establish a Congressional funded national clearinghouse for missing adults. The National Center for Missing Adults was created, through a grant from the United stated Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Assistance.
Having served 20 years as a community leader and advocate for under-served victim populations throughout the country, Kym has had the opportunity to work with individuals from a variety of vocations within the government and private sector. Working with local, state and federal agencies within the criminal justice community has also provided a wide-range of field based experience. Follow @Lauthinv
